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 • Janet grew up in a Christian home. Mom did what she could to make sure that her brothers and sisters were in church Sundays, at youth group and knew the importance of a relationship with Jesus Christ. It wasn’t easy as a single mom, but she did her best. To the joy of her church and family, Janet married a boy from the youth group. Shortly after their marriage, signs of cracks in the relationship surfaced. In a whirlwind of events that caught the church off guard, Janet was divorced, and the father of their little girl was in prison on drug charges. Janet struggled financially, spiritually and emotionally. The church did little to reach out. Soon, Janet met Gary. Gary had recently accepted Christ and had also come from an abusive relationship in which he and his daughter were frequently attacked by his alcoholic wife. In spite of the moral issues, and against the recommendations of the church, Gary and Janet moved in with each other. They continued to go to church and had two children together, but for reasons they would only share with a few, marriage at this point wasn’t an option in their minds. After a visit from the church elders Gary and Janet were told not to return to church since they were ‘living in sin.’ When I saw Gary and Janet a year later they shared that Gary was dying of congestive heart failure. A few months after that Gary died, leaving Janet alone once again, now with four children. Gary’s funeral was held in a funeral home with a few friends and family members. The church refused to reach out to Janet. It’s been several years now. After several broken relationships and financial turmoil, Janet has renewed her faith. In the midst of her healing, she still can’t ‘force herself’ to go to church.

• Brandon and Nancy came to town shortly after their marriage. As youth pastor and wife they added the missing ingredient to the struggling church that called them. The small town soon began to take notice of the youth group at First Church. So much so, that some people brought their kids to youth group while still attending their own church. On occasion, the weekday youth meetings drew more kids than the regular services of the church. Then trouble arose. Rumors started spreading that Brandon was ‘a little to close’ to one of the girls in the youth group. The elders of the church investigated the situation thoroughly and found no evidence of this. Strangely, the rumors seemed to have originated at the home of the senior pastor, who had become increasingly critical of the youth pastors work habits, theology and methodology. Brandon and Nancy resigned under the scrutiny of the senior pastor and due to increasing health problems with Nancy which doctors attributed to stress. Brandon left the ministry and now works doing odd jobs around town. The family attends church 50 miles away in a mega church where, as Brandon put it ‘they can avoid the stories and rumors.”

• The Vietnam War was a terrible dark spot in US history. Still, Jack was proud to go and serve his country. He was stationed near the front lines and relates how one week had been particularly horrendous. Three of his buddies had died in a fire fight in which he was only yards away. As he tells the story you can still see his eyes will up with tears. Then the letter arrived. It was from his church back in North Dakota. Jack had been an active participant in church all his life. He’d been baptized; He studied his Bible every day. He loved Jesus. When Jack talks about the letter, blood still drains from his face. The letter informed him that since he had not kept up with his annual offerings his name had been dropped from the church membership list. If he were to catch up on these ‘pledges’ they would gladly consider reinstating him. Jack came home from Vietnam a new man. Still strong in his faith, he refuses to attend any church. He prefers the purity of his relationship with Christ than the politics of the organized church.

And the stories go on. People who have been beaten up by divorce, drugs, emotional and financial distress, health issues and a variety of other crisis, only to be kicked by the church while they are down. Some of them, to be sure, are suffering the consequences of poor choices of their own. Others brutally abused by spiritual leaders. To them, it doesn’t really matter why. It hurts. It hurts badly. And the fact that ‘Jesus loves them’ becomes small comfort.

Built with Grace is about the EMPTY PEW PEOPLE. It’s about asking the hard questions. How can we reach these people who are bruised and wounded by the very people that are sent to comfort and encourage? Sermons won’t help. They won’t come to church anymore. Even if they did come to church it would be risky. We in the church fear the tarnish of sin among us. While Jesus says “come just as you are”, the church can often appear to add a line that goes something like “as soon as you are cleaned up.”

Join with me in prayer. Prayer for those you know who are hurting. Those who feel beaten up and battered. Pray that they will know the overwhelming love and forgiveness that only comes through Jesus. I firmly believe that most people who have ‘left the church’ have done so because the pain they are in has not been addressed. Jesus, as good shepherd, vowed to make sure every one of his lambs returned safely to the fold after wandering. Let us pray for the lost sheep of our society.


 When the whole nation had finished crossing the Jordan, the LORD said to Joshua,” Choose twelve men from among the people, one from each tribe, and tell them to take up twelve stones from the middle of the Jordan from right where the priests stood and to carry them over with you and put them down at the place where you stay tonight.” So Joshua called together the twelve men he had appointed from the Israelites, one from each tribe, and said to them, “Go over before the ark of the LORD your God into the middle of the Jordan. Each of you is to take up a stone on his shoulder, according to the number of the tribes of the Israelites, to serve as a sign among you. In the future, when your children ask you, ‘What do these stones mean?’ tell them that the flow of the Jordan was cut off before the ark of the covenant of the Lord. When it crossed the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan were cut off. These stones are to be a memorial to the people of Israel forever.” So the Israelites did as Joshua commanded them. They took twelve stones from the middle of the Jordan, according to the number of the tribes of the Israelites, as the LORD had told Joshua; and they carried them over with them to their camp, where they put them down. Joshua set up the twelve stones that had been in the middle of the Jordan at the spot where the priests who carried the Ark of the Covenant had stood. And they are there to this day. Joshua 4:1-8

It had been forty long, hot, dusty years of wandering. Parents had been laid to rest in wilderness graves. Babies had been born. Life had settled into a routine. Every morning Manna would mysteriously appear. Every evening Quail would come into camp. And, of course, there was the ever-present column of smoke and pillar of fire to guide the people of God. Mixed among all of this were memories of God’s provision and His judgment. Finally, under the leadership of Moses and now his assistant, Joshua, the nation of Israel was finally on the brink of entering the land that had been promised to them.

It must have seemed like an eternity ago that the Red Sea was crossed and the adventure begun. The stories of Egyptian dominance and abuse, the crossing of the Red Sea, water from rocks and the mysterious arrival of Quail and manna were now stories handed down from a generation earlier, and lessons learned. As the Israelites prepared to cross over the Jordan, there was one final instruction that Jehovah God gave to them. Each tribe was to choose a representative to carry a stone from the center of the river and place it in a pile where the people were to camp for the night. “These stones are to be a memorial for the people of Israel forever”.

That ‘simple pile of stones’ taken from the river would be a sign of God’s presence in the lives of the Israelites forever. On the one hand, it reminded them that the long, tedious wilderness journey was finally gone. On the other hand, it served as a promise that better days would come. God is still in the business of stacking stones. Life lessons and mile-markers, as it were, along our paths to remind us of His presence in our lives. These sign-posts along the way remind us of four things that God does not want us to forget as we travel the journey of life.

 Protection: The stones on the banks of the Jordan were a constant reminder to the Israelites that God had protected them along the way. The promise he made to Abraham would not be thwarted by human weakness or rebellion. That promise is still true today. If we truly believe that God is sovereign then we also must acknowledge that He will protect us. That does not mean that we will be free of physical calamity. It does mean that only what he allows to cross our paths will do so.

 Direction: From the time Abram was called from Ur, the story is the same. God has a plan and a purpose for us. That plan is given to us in steps. We see but one part of the map, the part immediately important to us. The Israelites had no idea what they faced as they crossed the Red Sea. The length of the trip grew considerably longer when, upon seeing the ‘giants of the land’ they reacted in fear rather than faith. The significance of the stones was that it forced the people of Israel to look back and by looking back, be reminded of the presence of God along the way.

 Instruction: The stones would also prove to be valuable in reminding the children of the Israelites of God’s law and the consequences for failing to follow that law. The Ten Commandments have been touted by some as being restrictive, outdated and out of date for our times. While the “Law” was abolished at the Cross of Jesus Christ, the basic message remains the same and was summarized for today by Jesus Christ Himself. The Ten Commandments and all of the Law is summarized in Matthew 22:36-40. Love God. Love your neighbor. THIS is the law for today.

 Recollection: Lastly, the stones served as a reminder. This last point is really a summary of the first three. If the Israelites were to look back throughout history they would see the overwhelming evidence that Jehovah God was an active, loving part of every part of the journey. In Psalm 13, David is in agony as he contemplates his situation. Sleepless nights, enemy attacks, emotional distress and the seeming ‘silence of God’ had brought him to the point of hopelessness. But, in the final two verses of this prayer he remembers God’s love and that changes his entire outlook on life.

Life is hard. Bad things happen to good people. Yet, during those difficult times in life, if we can look back at that pile of stones from the Jordan. If we can bring ourselves to look at how we have experienced the best things God has to offer, we too can say as David did, “But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation. I will sing to the Lord, for he has been good to me.” (Psalm 13:5-6)


Any of us involved in ministry and/or public speaking are well aware that no matter how well prepared we are for ‘ministry’, God can have other plans. Sometimes those plans remind us that it really isn’t about us, or our material. It’s about people and relationships.

 

I had the privilege of ministering at LIFE 24/7 again on Saturday night. Shortly into the service I became aware that the real ministry that night was not going to be the material prepared by Mike Fisk. The real ministry was going to be done by the Holy Spirit of God working through a bunch of ex-cons trying to make a new start in life.

 

LIFE 24/7, formerly Discipleship House, is a recovery home for men who are overcoming a variety of addictions and either just coming out of prison or landed at LIFE 24/7 instead of going to prison. Either way, these are guys who know the rough side of life and are all about second chances.

 

I recently listened to the testimonies of a few of these guys and was amazed at the stories of broken relationships, violence and dysfunctional families these guys had come from. These are guys that are living proof that Jesus Christ changes lives and that second chances are a normal part of his working in men.

 

Tonight’s service was led by Dillon. Dillon has a passion for Jesus and a desire to learn everything he can about the Bible, the Christian faith and how to help others change their lives. He has a passion for God and compassion for people. This was his first time leading the service. He was the fledgling Pastor Randy chose to be pushed out of his comfort zone and into the limelight. He handled it well and I now refer to him as ‘Pastor Dillon’. While he isn’t real comfortable in the position, he has something every minister needs to have in order to be effective. Dillon has passion, and passion beats technique every time.

 

After our time of Praise and Worship, and before I was to speak on how each of us can live ‘Grace-fully in God’s Silence’, Dillon asked Adah to come forward. He’d told me this was going to happen earlier, so I was expecting it. Adah was going to leave her position of ‘house mom’ at LIFE 24/7. What Dillon didn’t tell me (and he couldn’t know) was how emotional the ‘good byes’ would be.

 

One by one, each of the eleven guys thanked Adah for being the inspiration all of them needed to believe in themselves. For one man, Adah was the ‘mom I never had’. Another shared that his grandmother had died recently, and Adah was his ‘adopted’ grandma. Still another said thank you to Adah for ‘saving his nephew’s life’. I watched these guys say thank you one by one and there wasn’t a one of them that had a dry eye.  

 

It was a stirring reminder that the real change in lives comes from the people in the background, doing the mundane things in life. We speakers/teachers/ pastors get the ‘upfront’ attention, but life change comes after the curtain falls.

 

So there I was all ready to speak about how God can seem silent and far away. But before I could get up to share that message, we’d all heard our Heavenly Father loud and clear, and through the life of his faithful servant, Adah, we’d seen His face.

 

Thanks to the guys of LIFE 24/7 and Adah for your ministry to me on Saturday night. I can’t wait to join with you once again!

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