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 • Janet grew up in a Christian home. Mom did what she could to make sure that her brothers and sisters were in church Sundays, at youth group and knew the importance of a relationship with Jesus Christ. It wasn’t easy as a single mom, but she did her best. To the joy of her church and family, Janet married a boy from the youth group. Shortly after their marriage, signs of cracks in the relationship surfaced. In a whirlwind of events that caught the church off guard, Janet was divorced, and the father of their little girl was in prison on drug charges. Janet struggled financially, spiritually and emotionally. The church did little to reach out. Soon, Janet met Gary. Gary had recently accepted Christ and had also come from an abusive relationship in which he and his daughter were frequently attacked by his alcoholic wife. In spite of the moral issues, and against the recommendations of the church, Gary and Janet moved in with each other. They continued to go to church and had two children together, but for reasons they would only share with a few, marriage at this point wasn’t an option in their minds. After a visit from the church elders Gary and Janet were told not to return to church since they were ‘living in sin.’ When I saw Gary and Janet a year later they shared that Gary was dying of congestive heart failure. A few months after that Gary died, leaving Janet alone once again, now with four children. Gary’s funeral was held in a funeral home with a few friends and family members. The church refused to reach out to Janet. It’s been several years now. After several broken relationships and financial turmoil, Janet has renewed her faith. In the midst of her healing, she still can’t ‘force herself’ to go to church.

• Brandon and Nancy came to town shortly after their marriage. As youth pastor and wife they added the missing ingredient to the struggling church that called them. The small town soon began to take notice of the youth group at First Church. So much so, that some people brought their kids to youth group while still attending their own church. On occasion, the weekday youth meetings drew more kids than the regular services of the church. Then trouble arose. Rumors started spreading that Brandon was ‘a little to close’ to one of the girls in the youth group. The elders of the church investigated the situation thoroughly and found no evidence of this. Strangely, the rumors seemed to have originated at the home of the senior pastor, who had become increasingly critical of the youth pastors work habits, theology and methodology. Brandon and Nancy resigned under the scrutiny of the senior pastor and due to increasing health problems with Nancy which doctors attributed to stress. Brandon left the ministry and now works doing odd jobs around town. The family attends church 50 miles away in a mega church where, as Brandon put it ‘they can avoid the stories and rumors.”

• The Vietnam War was a terrible dark spot in US history. Still, Jack was proud to go and serve his country. He was stationed near the front lines and relates how one week had been particularly horrendous. Three of his buddies had died in a fire fight in which he was only yards away. As he tells the story you can still see his eyes will up with tears. Then the letter arrived. It was from his church back in North Dakota. Jack had been an active participant in church all his life. He’d been baptized; He studied his Bible every day. He loved Jesus. When Jack talks about the letter, blood still drains from his face. The letter informed him that since he had not kept up with his annual offerings his name had been dropped from the church membership list. If he were to catch up on these ‘pledges’ they would gladly consider reinstating him. Jack came home from Vietnam a new man. Still strong in his faith, he refuses to attend any church. He prefers the purity of his relationship with Christ than the politics of the organized church.

And the stories go on. People who have been beaten up by divorce, drugs, emotional and financial distress, health issues and a variety of other crisis, only to be kicked by the church while they are down. Some of them, to be sure, are suffering the consequences of poor choices of their own. Others brutally abused by spiritual leaders. To them, it doesn’t really matter why. It hurts. It hurts badly. And the fact that ‘Jesus loves them’ becomes small comfort.

Built with Grace is about the EMPTY PEW PEOPLE. It’s about asking the hard questions. How can we reach these people who are bruised and wounded by the very people that are sent to comfort and encourage? Sermons won’t help. They won’t come to church anymore. Even if they did come to church it would be risky. We in the church fear the tarnish of sin among us. While Jesus says “come just as you are”, the church can often appear to add a line that goes something like “as soon as you are cleaned up.”

Join with me in prayer. Prayer for those you know who are hurting. Those who feel beaten up and battered. Pray that they will know the overwhelming love and forgiveness that only comes through Jesus. I firmly believe that most people who have ‘left the church’ have done so because the pain they are in has not been addressed. Jesus, as good shepherd, vowed to make sure every one of his lambs returned safely to the fold after wandering. Let us pray for the lost sheep of our society.


When Jesus came on the scene, the church hadn’t heard the clear voice of God in over 400 years. No prophets, no signs and wonders, nothing. All was not lost though. The religious system was firmly intact and was able to carry on with the information that had been handed down from generation to generation.

By today’s standards one would consider the ‘church’ of that day to be a solid, secure, respectable institution. People knew the routine. The rules were firmly established. Expectations were minimal, but that was okay because there were no surprises that way.

 It’s no wonder then, that when Jesus came on the scene a few eyebrows were raised. Aside from the baby Jesus’ dedication, and the scene Simeon and Anna caused over his birth, his life was pretty obscure for his growing years. No doubt he was taught well in the ways of the church. He knew the rules, he knew the routine and he saw first hand the results of bucking the system.

 By the time He was 12 Jesus established himself as an up and coming ‘expert’ in the Law. Luke’s gospel tells the story of Jesus in the temple. Having ducked out of the family caravan headed for home, he stepped into the circle of some the most prominent religious leaders of his day and confounded them with his wisdom and his questions.

 Fast forward approximately 20 years. Jesus’ cousin John the Baptist was preaching a message of repentance and calling God’s people back to him. Although John was outspoken and somewhat brash in his approach, he didn’t seem to draw much attention for the religious establishment. And so, for the first time in 400 years, God had apparently broken His silence.

 At the height of his career, though, John himself received an epiphany of sorts. We don’t know how much contact these two cousins had during their growing up years. But at some point in John’s ministry it became obvious to him that his ministry would come to a close. He was ready to hand the reigns over to his cousin, or as he put it, ‘The Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world’.

 From the start, Jesus’ ministry seemed at odds with the established religious system of the day. The awe and respect shown him at the age of 12, now turned to distrust, animosity and sometimes pure hatred. Jesus was not well liked.

 On a purely surface level, it would appear that the main reason for the difference between John’s ministry and Jesus ministry is that Jesus didn’t fit the mold the religious elite had hoped for. Jesus pushed the theological envelope so to speak. He spoke with too much authority, He hung out with sinners and he worked on the Sabbath! I’m just guessing, but I would imagine that the Pharisees could have handled the first two issues. But the Sabbath? How dare he break the sacred rules of the Sabbath?

 In a brief review of all Jesus ‘healings’ much of His problems rose from the fact that he worked Saturdays. This is purely conjecture, but I wonder how the response to Jesus’ ministry would have been different had He simply taken Saturday off?

 Before we are too hard on the Pharisees and the system they had established, we need to take a hard look at the religious system of today. If we are truly honest with ourselves we must admit that we each have our list of the things we can accept and the things we can not. In the 2000+ years since Jesus taught us that the lists were to be destroyed, we’d confidently and quietly re-established the system, complete with do and don’ts and often backed by our interpretation of Scriptures that prove our point.

That’s the problem we have with GRACE. Grace tells us to tear up the list. Grace tells us to turn over a person’s soul to the working of the Holy Spirit. Grace tells us that all the ‘bad sins’ like divorce, immorality, addictions and the like are no worse than a judgmental spirit, anger, stubbornness and all those ‘lesser sins.’

John addresses that very issue in Revelation chapter 2. The church in Ephesus was the ‘established, mature’ church of the day. They were rock solid on their theology and interpretation of Scripture. They stood against sin in their midst. But the church in Ephesus risked the power of God among them because they lacked in love. Without love there can be no Grace.

 Statistics tell us that 90% or better of church growth is transfer growth. We in the church need a new awakening to Grace. We need to reach out to those in our churches and outside the church and show them the Love and Grace of God. The day of making sure our list is secure is over.

“Built with Grace” has a passion to do just that. My passion, my heart reaches out to those who need to know about Grace. These people aren’t the ‘unsaved’. They are the people who have been assaulted, abused and rejected by the church.

In Acts 10, Peter is taking a late morning nap on the roof when a sheet appears three times. Each time Peter is told to ‘eat’. Each time Peter refuses. But the voice from heaven is the same today as it was that day. What God calls clean we have no right to see as unclean. If we hope to bring people to a vibrant relationship with Jesus we each must ask ourselves, “What’s on my sheet. What must I remove to minister to those in need of second chances?”

“From Living GRACE-fully in conflict”


 When the whole nation had finished crossing the Jordan, the LORD said to Joshua,” Choose twelve men from among the people, one from each tribe, and tell them to take up twelve stones from the middle of the Jordan from right where the priests stood and to carry them over with you and put them down at the place where you stay tonight.” So Joshua called together the twelve men he had appointed from the Israelites, one from each tribe, and said to them, “Go over before the ark of the LORD your God into the middle of the Jordan. Each of you is to take up a stone on his shoulder, according to the number of the tribes of the Israelites, to serve as a sign among you. In the future, when your children ask you, ‘What do these stones mean?’ tell them that the flow of the Jordan was cut off before the ark of the covenant of the Lord. When it crossed the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan were cut off. These stones are to be a memorial to the people of Israel forever.” So the Israelites did as Joshua commanded them. They took twelve stones from the middle of the Jordan, according to the number of the tribes of the Israelites, as the LORD had told Joshua; and they carried them over with them to their camp, where they put them down. Joshua set up the twelve stones that had been in the middle of the Jordan at the spot where the priests who carried the Ark of the Covenant had stood. And they are there to this day. Joshua 4:1-8

It had been forty long, hot, dusty years of wandering. Parents had been laid to rest in wilderness graves. Babies had been born. Life had settled into a routine. Every morning Manna would mysteriously appear. Every evening Quail would come into camp. And, of course, there was the ever-present column of smoke and pillar of fire to guide the people of God. Mixed among all of this were memories of God’s provision and His judgment. Finally, under the leadership of Moses and now his assistant, Joshua, the nation of Israel was finally on the brink of entering the land that had been promised to them.

It must have seemed like an eternity ago that the Red Sea was crossed and the adventure begun. The stories of Egyptian dominance and abuse, the crossing of the Red Sea, water from rocks and the mysterious arrival of Quail and manna were now stories handed down from a generation earlier, and lessons learned. As the Israelites prepared to cross over the Jordan, there was one final instruction that Jehovah God gave to them. Each tribe was to choose a representative to carry a stone from the center of the river and place it in a pile where the people were to camp for the night. “These stones are to be a memorial for the people of Israel forever”.

That ‘simple pile of stones’ taken from the river would be a sign of God’s presence in the lives of the Israelites forever. On the one hand, it reminded them that the long, tedious wilderness journey was finally gone. On the other hand, it served as a promise that better days would come. God is still in the business of stacking stones. Life lessons and mile-markers, as it were, along our paths to remind us of His presence in our lives. These sign-posts along the way remind us of four things that God does not want us to forget as we travel the journey of life.

 Protection: The stones on the banks of the Jordan were a constant reminder to the Israelites that God had protected them along the way. The promise he made to Abraham would not be thwarted by human weakness or rebellion. That promise is still true today. If we truly believe that God is sovereign then we also must acknowledge that He will protect us. That does not mean that we will be free of physical calamity. It does mean that only what he allows to cross our paths will do so.

 Direction: From the time Abram was called from Ur, the story is the same. God has a plan and a purpose for us. That plan is given to us in steps. We see but one part of the map, the part immediately important to us. The Israelites had no idea what they faced as they crossed the Red Sea. The length of the trip grew considerably longer when, upon seeing the ‘giants of the land’ they reacted in fear rather than faith. The significance of the stones was that it forced the people of Israel to look back and by looking back, be reminded of the presence of God along the way.

 Instruction: The stones would also prove to be valuable in reminding the children of the Israelites of God’s law and the consequences for failing to follow that law. The Ten Commandments have been touted by some as being restrictive, outdated and out of date for our times. While the “Law” was abolished at the Cross of Jesus Christ, the basic message remains the same and was summarized for today by Jesus Christ Himself. The Ten Commandments and all of the Law is summarized in Matthew 22:36-40. Love God. Love your neighbor. THIS is the law for today.

 Recollection: Lastly, the stones served as a reminder. This last point is really a summary of the first three. If the Israelites were to look back throughout history they would see the overwhelming evidence that Jehovah God was an active, loving part of every part of the journey. In Psalm 13, David is in agony as he contemplates his situation. Sleepless nights, enemy attacks, emotional distress and the seeming ‘silence of God’ had brought him to the point of hopelessness. But, in the final two verses of this prayer he remembers God’s love and that changes his entire outlook on life.

Life is hard. Bad things happen to good people. Yet, during those difficult times in life, if we can look back at that pile of stones from the Jordan. If we can bring ourselves to look at how we have experienced the best things God has to offer, we too can say as David did, “But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation. I will sing to the Lord, for he has been good to me.” (Psalm 13:5-6)


Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Galatians 6:1

 I have a friend who restores old cars as a hobby. Every once in a while an old, rusted out chuck of metal will appear at the door of his shop. Months later that rusted out heap will be transformed into a show room condition classic automobile. Bob is old school. While you can buy ‘new’ after market parts for just about any car made, he prefers, if at all possible to repair the original body parts. If that won’t work, he’ll scour the local junk yards for the same models and buy those old parts. Only as a last resort will he buy the ‘new, after market’ items for his project.

 When I think of Galatians 6:1, I think of Bob and his passion for restoring old cars. It is truly a work of art when his finished projects are rolled out of his shop. Bob knows cars. Bob knows how to take the tools he has and use them to take what was once considered damaged goods and make it the envy of everyone, whether they are classic car buffs or not.

 In Paul’s letter to the Galatians, he is writing to a group of people who wee struggling with the whole question of sin. What things were ‘permissible’? What things weren’t? How do we deal with the gray areas? It’s a problem that has plagued humanity since that first apple in the garden.

 As he concludes his letter Paul gives some instruction on what our response should be when sin ‘enters the camp’. The instruction is wrapped up in one small phrase that is loaded with implications for the Christ-followers. “Restore gently”.

 First of all, there is no question that there is a problem. The person involved is a sinner. He’s been caught red handed. He is, pardon the pun, ‘guilty as sin’. Secondly, it’s important to notice that the subject is not a ‘person of the world.’ This guy could be a pastor, a church elder or a Sunday School teacher. He’s one of the family!

 When an old rust bucket appears at Bob’s shop, it’s pretty obvious what the problem is. The important part of the restoration process isn’t identifying the problem though. The most important part is how we can get the car back to mint condition. There are times when the damage to the car is too much. THAT IS NOT TRUE WITH THE HUMAN SOUL! Jesus love can transform the most broken, discouraged person.

 To do restoration correctly, the person doing the restoring must have certain skills required for the task. First of all, he must know how the project is put together. In the human realm, when dealing with sin in our midst, that means we must take the time to know the circumstances surrounding the problem. What has that person gone through? What made him/her act in the way they did? Restoration requires relationship.

 Secondly, we need to know what tools will work at which time in the restoration process. Inappropriate tool usage can damage the project beyond repair. Hammers and sandpaper work well with car restoration, but the human spirit needs a soft and gentler approach.

 Next, it’s important to remember that to do car restoration correctly takes time. The same is true for the human soul. While Jesus forgives us the moment we ask, the healing process can take much longer and requires much patience.

 That is what Grace is about. Initially it’s bringing someone to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. But our work doesn’t stop there. To bring healing in the lives of others we must gently and patiently bring them to restoration by building a relationship with them and showing them how much Jesus loves them. It is His Holy Spirit that will bring the lasting change we hope for.


The story of Job has always intrigued me for a variety of reasons. Here he was, the man that God himself was impressed with. “Have you seen my friend Job?” It almost sounds as though God himself were boasting. “Look around. Try to find anyone that is more stable, more blameless than he is! Try to find someone. I dare you!” 

Apparently, God had reason to boast (If God boasted). Job had it all together. He was the poster child for spiritual living. Job had it all. A great church, a great family, well behaved kids and although Scripture says little about her, I’m guessing his wife was a knock-out.

If Job were alive today he could probably have whatever he wanted. The evangelicals would flock to him as the one who could do away with all the social ills. Those on the other side would have to admit he was a class act. Besides, he had money, and money always speaks loud and clear.

Try looking at Job from a human perspective. Look at his story without the advantage we have of the backstage drama between God and Satan. At the peak of his career Job suffers the trifecta of disasters. Economically he loses all his livestock. In his day, livestock = $$. Secondly, he loses everything relationally. The one thing every man hopes for is to leave a heritage behind him. Job lost any hope of passing on his good name that day when, due to natural disaster, every one of his children was killed. But, he still had his health, right? A man can suffer lots of adversity if he’s healthy. Not so fast. Job loses his health too.

So here he is, this man of greatness wallowing in a burnt out campfire scraping his sores with a dirty, broken piece of an old dish.

Enter the church…well, maybe not exactly the church, but close. Three of Jobs ‘closest friends’ come to hold an intervention. Perhaps Job’s demise was casting a dark shadow on their ministry. Give them the benefit of a doubt. Maybe they were there with good intentions. Whatever their motives, the men all had the same message for Job. The message was worded differently, and arguments were made rationally, from our perspective. The bottom line to these ‘friends of Job’ was that adversity comes as a result of sin. Job suffered adversity. Therefore Job sinned.

It’s a simple equation that has been handed down through the centuries. Sin = adversity. Spirituality = Blessing. We have to explain things. We have to give reasons for those times when our Theology about a God of Love falls short. We all have the tendency to explain those times when ‘good people’ suffer and ‘bad people’ are victorious.

Eventually, Job had his wealth and position restored, and a new family to carry on his good name. But Job learned a valuable lesson that each of us needs to learn and I have to admit I’m not good at this yet. That lesson is this. God is God. He is sovereign in all he does.

While I’m not advocating that when trials come we need to don the sackcloth and grab the nearest broken plate on our way to the burnt-out campfire, each of us needs to take the time, during the tough times, to stop and evaluate what got us here. Sometimes it is our sin. Sometimes it’s the sin of others. Sometimes we won’t know.

I appreciate the fact that Job questioned God. He didn’t question YAHWEH’s existence. He evaluated himself and could find no sin. But he shows each of us a couple valuable lessons.

First, God is God and is of another world. We have no idea of the future. We have no idea what is going on in the spiritual realm involving our lives. It takes faith, but each of us must look first to see if there is sin that needs to be dealt with. If so, deal with it. Ask repentance and work towards a cure with the help of the Holy Spirit. If not, faithfully trust that God will eventually make His way plain. It may not be until heaven, but He will reveal Himself.

Secondly, it’s okay to question God, to ask for answers. To share frustrations. To cry. Our Heavenly Father isn’t an emotionally weak old man that can’t handle adversity or argument. He’s a loving, understanding Heavenly Father that only has our best in mind, and He knows better than us what is best for us.

Lastly, stay true to yourself. There are many people out there that will tell you exactly why you are going through this trial and what you need to do to get out of it. Before you jump on some ‘quick cure’ bandwagon spend some time with the Master. Then listen with a Godly wisdom to that others say.

(From ‘Sifted as Wheat’)

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